The problem: My children keep arguing about controlling screens.
Help them set up a fair system.
Do: Use a timer or something that lets them take turns without your oversight.
Don’t become the screen god.
Don’t solve the problem for them. It’s tempting to swoop in and fix silly issues like who’s got the remote control, but your constant intervention will foster more sibling rivalry than sibling harmony.
Help them keep the bigger goal in mind.
Say: “I know you both want to have fun. If you can solve your conflict, then you can keep watching or playing. If not, let’s take a break and do something else.”
Don’t demean their issue.
Don’t say:
- “Why are you arguing about this again? Who cares?”
- “Turn it off!”
Why
Even if the issue sounds insignificant to you, your children’s sibling conflicts are complex and challenging. There’s likely a lot more going on than the control of the remote control. Kids test boundaries, learn about negotiation, and explore power dynamics with their siblings. Help your children become more conscious of their sibling dynamics by talking during less heated moments.
